It’s going to be ok. The world is a messy place for a black man—it’s always been that way. Everywhere you turn, someone is being mistreated because of their skin. It’s like unjust murders keep popping up on your phone, one after another, and someone is always justifying it. It’s overwhelming. I get it. I get what you are going through.
You feel helpless because you don’t know how to help. You feel that what you do won’t make a difference or doesn’t matter—it does. Don’t let your anger take over your heart. Don’t let it make you numb to the issues that move God’s heart. You will feel scared. I get it. Because it’s not just your world anymore—you now share it with your son. The thought that he could be mistaken for a threat, or mistreated because of how he looks keeps you up at night. Tossing and turning, wondering how you can make this world a better place for Carter.
I know you are hurting right now. You feel betrayed by those you thought would never think the way they do. By the people you thought had your back. The people you thought were family. You feel lost. Not knowing what is next for your future. Thinking to yourself,
“Where do I go from here?”
“How do I lead my household?”
I know what you are going through. It’s rough. It doesn’t seem like it’s getting any better anytime soon—but remain strong. What you are doing matters. Even if it’s just one person, it matters. Keep speaking up. Holding people accountable. Just make sure you always do it with love! Trust in the Lord. Keep your focus on Him. Don’t worry about tomorrow. His plans for your life are greater than anything you can imagine. Don’t give up on God, even when it seems like the easier thing to do.
Always try to see people the way Jesus sees them, no matter what they look like. Remember, not all white people are racist. Not all police are bad. Don’t let the media convince you otherwise. Don’t put people in that box that you wouldn’t want to be put in. Hold on to hope. It’s your light in this dark world. So what if those people aren’t walking with you on this journey. Maybe they weren’t meant to. Love them like Christ loved the church, even when it’s hard.
Remember that it’s ok to be uncomfortable. If you are comfortable, are you really following Christ? There is so much good in this world—don’t let it get outweighed by all the bad. Keep being who your family needs you to be and what the Bible calls you to be.